Here’s a wild thought: your brain might be gaslighting you.

You know that we have like a “default mode” of thinking and it goes like:

“I’m not good enough”

“I can’t do it”

“I don’t deserve it”

The worst part? You believe it because you’ve been hearing it for so long, that’s the only thing that you know, we all know.

The thing is: If you don’t know that you have that default mode ON, there is no way to change it.

BUT, once you realize it, that’s when you start the real change

Dr. Andrew Huberman (aka neuroscience genius) explained this beautifully in this interview: The way to start getting what you want (and it’s not the law of attraction even though he talks about it) is to make those desires important.

It’s all about creating the narrative of who you are → who you want to be → what you want to achieve.

Once you create the narrative of the life you want to have, you create salience:

Fancy word ah? but it just means you’re telling your brain, “This matters, this is important.” When you make something important, your brain starts paying attention.

Once you create this salience, this activates the “task-positive network” and this has 3 parts:

• Salience network → This deserves my attention

• Attention network → You cognitively focus on what you want to achieve

• Executive control network → Your brain is taking action, constantly looking for opportunities or ways to get to that goal or dream life or whatever desire you have

BUT pay attention: this is no magic, this is based on habit → consistency

And it all starts by flipping those negative thoughts in your head.

“I’m not good enough” → “I am good at this”

“I don’t deserve this” → “Everyone deserves this, including me”

“I can’t do this” → “I can do it”

The secret sauce? Repetition.

The more you say it, the more your brain believes it. And once it believes? That’s when your whole outlook (and your actions) start to change.

I Dare You to catch one of those self-sabotaging thoughts today.

Label it. Flip it. Repeat the new narrative every chance you get.

What’s your new narrative?

Dare to rewrite your story,

Lila

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