This email is a bit more personal, but I hope you find it useful too.

Heyhey,

If I could turn back time and sit down with my younger self, I’d have a few hard-earned lessons to share—truths that would’ve saved me a lot of second-guessing and sleepless nights. We all go through moments of doubt, hesitation, and fear, but with the right mindset, those moments can be stepping stones rather than stumbling blocks.

I remember feeling overwhelmed by the pressure to fit in, to be liked, to do what was expected of me. If only I knew then what I know now—that putting myself first isn’t selfish, that taking risks isn’t reckless, and that not everyone deserves my trust. Life’s a journey, and the sooner we learn to navigate it with open eyes and an open heart, the better.

The first thing I’d tell my younger self is this: Don’t trust everyone. Keep one eye open and one eye closed, as the saying goes. Not everyone has your best interests at heart, and it’s okay to protect yourself. It’s not about being paranoid; it’s about being smart.

You are your own priority. In life, you have to come first, second, and third. You are responsible for your happiness, your success, and your well-being. No one else will build your life for you, so start taking action.

Stop worrying about what others think—they probably aren’t paying as much attention as you think. One of the most freeing things you can do is to stop being shy and afraid of judgment. People will always have opinions, but they don’t live your life—you do. Take the leap, speak up, and do what’s right for you. Remember, nobody cares about your life as much as you do, so live it unapologetically.

When it comes to forgiveness, here’s what I’ve learned: it’s a gift, not an obligation. If someone hurt you, don’t feel guilty if you don’t want to forgive them right away—or at all. Forgiveness is your choice, and sometimes, choosing not to forgive is a way of protecting yourself.

Trust the journey and enjoy it, because every experience, good or bad, is part of the process. Embrace it all, and know that even the tough times are shaping you into the person you’re meant to be.

And lastly, take risks and embrace the unknown. Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone. The biggest opportunities often come when you’re willing to face the fear of uncertainty. The unknown is where growth happens, where you discover new strengths and where life becomes an adventure.

Now you tell me…

What’s one piece of advice you’d give your younger self?

Share with me one piece of advice you’d give to your younger self so I know you’re paying attention to these emails and I’ll keep sending them to you. :)

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