Heyhey,

Ever catch yourself putting your emotions on mute, thinking, “I’ll deal with this later”?

You know, for years I did that—hiding my feelings every time I felt something. But over time, it only made everything waaay worse. You have to face every feeling or emotion you have so you can finally heal them

But this is something my therapist used to tell me:

“you can hide the dirt under the rug, but it's still there until it overflows and you explode”

Turning off emotions might feel like you're saving yourself some trouble, but in reality, you’re just delaying the inevitable.

Those feelings are still there, under the rug.

HERE ARE SOME FACTS ABOUT IT

• Unseen baggage: Bottled-up emotions don’t just disappear. They linger, building pressure until one day, they explode. And when that happens, it’s not just a mess—it’s a full-on emotional flood

• Mind-body connection: When you stuff your emotions away, they have a way of showing up physically—tight shoulders, headaches, fatigue (or worse things). Your body keeps score, whether you realize it or not

This is how I broke the cycle (with my therapist's help of course)

• Acknowledge the feels: I started by just acknowledging what I was feeling, without judgment. Sometimes, it’s as simple as saying to myself, “I’m feeling really frustrated right now” or “I’m super angry to X person because of X reason” and letting that be okay, you have the right to feel whatever you want!!!!

• Let It out: Whether it’s venting to a friend, writing it all down, or even screaming into a pillow (yes, it works!), finding an outlet for your emotions is crucial. Holding it all in only makes it worse. (personally I prefer to write everything down on paper and then burn it, some people say that the fire is a way to release everything)

Most important thing in this email is: Feel your emotions

Think about them. Why do you feel that way? What exactly are you feeling? Can you name it? Ride the emotional rollercoaster and don’t try to jump off mid-ride. Feeling emotions is part of being human, and each emotional experience has something to teach us. Don’t reject them—understand them, embrace them, and accept them. They help you improve!

Take a moment and think about this:

What emotions have you been keeping on lockdown, and why?

Today I Dare You to write your emotions down on paper and then burn it to see if it helps you let them out 🔥

If you don’t want to burn any paper, try to think about the questions I’ve told you:

Why do I feel that way? What exactly am I feeling? Can I name it? 

By responding to this question, you are helping me improve :) And if you have comments on how to make this newsletter better, please let me know

-This is Lila 🤫